Realtime Lessons from The Big Lebowski
I don’t know about you, but some people just creep me out – it’s sad but true, and that doesn’t make me proud. Ever happened to you? When that happens I often creep myself out. I don’t want to be a mindless, illogical, reactive reptile, dominated by instincts and reactions. But being creeped out happens all too often.
Why do some people seem creepy to you and others don’t? Who are the people who are really creepy to you? Think back about who has really creeped you out recently. Are the people who creep you out different from each other, or do they have similarities? Do you secretly sometimes identify with them?
When I think about a trio of the weird, my mind goes to “The Big Lebowski,” the 1999 iconic movie of the weird, starring among many others, Jeff Bridges as the Dude, Walter Sobchak (John Goodman) and the Dude’s volatile rival, the criminally insane, aggressively evil, yet funny Latino, “the Jesus” played by John Turturro. The world of this trio is the bowling alley, which is their passion and environment.
Likability and “Creepability”
Actually, a lot of studies have been done in this area under the heading of the science of likability. Likability has always been a very strange phenomenon to me. Some people you meet you like everything about them. You like the way they look, the way they walk into a room, and you feel drawn to them. Other people you meet creep you out at first sight.
Why do some people like each other and others do not?
Why some people appeal to each other while others don’t is a very complex issue. You can be influenced by the line on a face or the shape of the body that causes you to respond favorably to a person or not. The theory of “vibes” humans beings emit is also very important.
The theory says, and I believe it, that everyone gives off some strange interpersonal energy that appeals to some people but not to others. That’s why not everyone gets along with each other, but most people get along with someone. The old saying is correct, generally speaking, that “there is someone for everyone.”
Types That like Each Other and Types That Don’t
Type theory can also say a lot about who is likely to bond and who is likely to creep each other out. Some types have more affinity to all of the other 16 personality types. Some have a much more narrow range of ability to be likable. Some personality types bond with each other in specific industries, which means they’re drawn to each other and get along better.
So who is it that likes each other, doesn’t like each other, and how can each type best fit into groups? In the table below you will find our Likability Index©, based on our experience, research and study (adding in our own personal misconceptions, biases and prejudices). Take a look and see if it works for you. (The copyright sign is an obvious effort to make this look a lot more important than it is.)